Letters to Ms.

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“I finally got up the courage to challenge an old established male tradition in my office. I do telephone sales. Our working area in the office has always been covered with “girlie” pictures and photographs of devastating (and devastated) maidens. This made us few women in the office feel terribly uncomfortable.

When the majority of the male staff was out to lunch, we proceeded to rape the latest issue of Playgirl of its best. Over my desk now hangs one gorgeous specimen of the male species, the centerfold. Everywhere there was a girlie picture there are now beautiful stud photographs.

I think the reactions of the men in the office could best be summarized in terms of shock. Although everyone tried to be good humored about it, jokingly or otherwise, they all compared themselves in some way to the models. It was a marvelous experience to see super-duper macho stud types go all to pieces when confronted with the same thing we have had to face for years — images of ourselves as we could never hope to be, images of ourselves as seen only in the minds of men.”

Name Withheld
October 13, 1975

More power from the embattled gender – Letters to Ms.

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A Little Rant

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How is it that basically every man considers women to be “man haters”, but they cannot for the life of them figure out why it is this way? The last time I dated a well-adjusted, emotionally stable member of the fine male gender was college. That came to an end three years ago. What does that say about me? I’ve got time for men I shouldn’t have time for, not even a second. But what does it say that I’ve met handfuls of women who have the same story? That we are letting “men” regress. Boys will be boys ends in boyhood.

Unable to deal with failure, emotions, modern women, and their own issues, unable to take blame or accept responsibility. Including myself and many, many fellow women, men have tossed around slut, skank, dress up for me, you’re too pretty, you’re lazy, blah blah blah. I used to think, oh shit maybe I am not really pretty, or maybe I don’t do enough. But now that I’ve had years of experience conducting science experiments (relationships), I know that the only thing these obnoxious comments mean is ISSUES. Not within women, but the men.

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The point of this rant is not to say how much better women are than men. It’s to say that every “feminine” trait that men could benefit from respecting is ironically delegated to being gay, wussy, or girly. But women are adaptable, problem solvers, reflective, and resilient. And we have to be, because if we were to behave like men, the world would be a dire, dire place.

Imagine if men respected women, if they viewed our intuition and reflective nature like we viewed their physical strength? With Respect. What a novel idea, that straight men view women in a positive light, instead of whining about hanging out with their girlfriend/wife, building caves to escape into man world.

So in conclusion, I am not a man hater. In fact, I love men. I love men who are in touch with themselves. Who can accept that this is crucial to survival and not “gay”. I love men who can seamlessly go from writing in a journal to building a garden or playing a sport. That is a man. What I’ve more recently dealt with are boys – where you try so hard to be a man but a man is the opposite of what you think.

I’ve made a decision today, over a cupcake. To avoid boy problems. To cut those arguments right off the bat, and to nip boys in the bud the second they establish their boyhood. And I think all women should do the same. Leave the boys to the girls.

What’s Up, Pussy Cat?

This kitten has been busy. Between moving offices, joining a gym, and being spotted in London Ontario nightclubs, it’s been a stacked couple weeks. Here’s what I’ve been up to!

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1. The first stomach virus I’ve had in 14 years found me…I am still recovering (or possibly still ill). Naturally, I’ve been fighting it off with ginger, lemon, cinnamon, honey, and oranges.

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2. You say nightclub picture, I say young at heart. Either way, it was my best friend’s birthday and we found ourselves dancing in a nightclub feeling like girls of 21 again.

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3. There’s a new gym rat in town! I’m the latest Goodlife member and if you go to Goodlife Liberty Village, check out a Body Shred class.

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4. Going from a white box to a lofty new office had turned my workspace into a colourful place I love. Complete with Forest Friends sticky notes 😉

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5. Not always in front of the camera, I’ve been busy finding my behind the scenes groove at Gotstyle Woman. Note to self: make all photos the same size on all blogs. Starting now. Now I sound like my high school art teachers.

Healthy Banana & Oats Cookies Recipe

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In my quest for healthy but sweet desserts I’ve learned that anything is possible. Chickpea brownies, beet brownies, quinoa rice pudding, and these tasty little breakfast (or snack) cookies. These are great for lactose intolerant people, vegans, and can easily be made gluten free by substituting the oats.

  • 2 very ripe bananas
  • Oats
  • Peanut Butter
  • Honey
  • Vanilla
  • Raisins, chocolate chips, whatever goodies you want

I mixed all of the ingredients together in a bowl until there was a good balance of banana and oats. Then I scooped them out onto a baking sheet, baking at 350 degrees for about 15 minutes. They don’t flatten out like normal cookies, so make sure you flatten them out pre-bake.

This is what I’m packing for snacks this week!